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The Keys to A Self Love Journey

Updated: Mar 2, 2021


If we really think about it, if we are all different, how can the love we have for our individual selves be the same? I read in an article, once, that Self Love can be defined as “a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth”. Self Love is accepting your flaws and embracing your strengths. I like to say Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. We will just call this the Golden Rule 2.0, why don’t we! The reality is, if you don’t care about you, why would another individual.


Sometimes we can be our own worst critic, so starting the journey and trusting the process is always hard. Here are the (5) key ways, I believe will help keep you motivated on starting or continuing your journey of self love:

  • Forgive Yourself & Give yourself permission to love: They always say, it’s hard to move forward if you haven’t forgiven a certain situation. You can’t love yourself, if you can’t forgive yourself of the hurt you caused you. We are all human. There is not one person who is perfect without flaw. We all make mistakes, the key is learning from it. So forgive yourself so that you can move on. I’m sure you have forgive others for far worse.

  • Start the Relationship with YOU : like any relationship, whether it is friendship, spouse-ship, family-ship, what do we do? The answer is simple; get to know each other. So in the journey of self love. The first thing you need to do is— GET TO KNOW YOURSELF! Remember who are! & if you forgot or simply don’t know who are, begin getting to know yourself again. Consider questions that address strength, weaknesses, your purpose, what makes you happy, values and beliefs, etc. The one person you should never lie to is yourself so really be honest with yourself. Once you are true to yourself you will begin to love and trust yourself. I mean isn’t the key to any relationship love, honesty, loyalty, and love?

  • Trust your own Intuition: It’s so easy to be consumed by what society wants for and from us. And at times we find an eternal battle happening between our heart (Intuition) and our mind (society). Our intuition never lies. Think about it, do you remember a time when your heart told you go one way but you then decided to go the opposite direction and regretted that decision? I like to think of my intuition as God’s way of speaking to me (for my spiritual folks) or even that little voice in our heart speaking to us. Our intuition can truly guide us if we listen. Society has a way of swaying us but if you truly know yourself and begin to love yourself, you will then begin to listen to yourself and follow that little voice that lives with in.

  • Do what makes YOU happy: Happiness starts within and radiates outward. Life is entirely to short to do anything that doesn’t brings you joy! Live in your purpose and do it on purpose. Set any and all goals for yourself and run your own race. Be your own competition! Remember moneybags don’t equal happiness; it can contribute to it but it won’t give you that true happiness.

  • Protect your Peace & Make Yourself a Priority : This, to me, is probably the most Important; PROTECT YOUR PEACE AND NEVER FORGET TO TAKE CARE OF YOU! It’s so easy to lose sight of the physical, mental, and spiritual care in which we need! Always remember that you can not do for others if you are not even close to 100% yourself. It’s ok to say No, it’s ok to say I can go, it’s ok to say I’m tired, It’s ok to stop, pause or reset your current life. Whatever it is you need to do that bring yourself back to a place of SERENITY...DO IT! Many will not agree and many may even be upset, but remember if something were to happen to you today, life will eventually continue and you will become a memory. TAKE CARE OF YOU!






SELF LOVE IS A JOURNEY! Remember it is a journey that never ends! Some days we may fall shorty but lose sight of your goal; but please remember it’s your journey. Sis isn‘t you and Sis can’t do it for you. Run your own RACE!



Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

- Serenity


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